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All About Relationships
The Informal Normal In a Black-Tie-Affair World
Have you noticed the trend? You ever notice how on programs like "The Bachelor" most of their dating episodes are via limousine escort? They travel to lavish destinations amid scenic splendor. The sunsets are so beautiful you can almost hear nature singing it's own rendition of, "Love Is A Many Splendid Thing". You rarely ever even see a rainy day. In "Sleepless In Seattle", the audience was left "Speechless in New York" atop the Empire State Building. The climactic romantic interlude that followed is one that will be etched in . . . keep reading
Victorias Secret Disclosed!
SHHHHHH, don't tell anybody, but, I know the secret. It all started with a simple shopping spree. I had decided to surprise my wife with a new purchase of special clothing essentials from every man's dreamiest of feminine wardrobe stores. Yes, it was Victoria's Secret. After spending a few hours there, I mean, a few minutes, something became very apparent to me. It was very obvious to anyone with a trained eye and the gift of observance. It became very apparent that I was the only man in a store mainly comprised of women who was . . . keep reading
Everything I Know About Relationship Success I Learned At The Playground
It happened again! I was enjoying an evening with my little 2-yr. old son at the playground when, BAM, it happened. You ever have one of those moments in life when you know you are being taught an important lesson? Picture in your mind a chaotic atmosphere of over fifty little children battling for their turn to play on a handful of playground rides and objects. Recipe for disaster, huh? That's what I thought, too, until my observations quickly picked up something else. Sure, they were running into one another, crying and trying . . . keep reading
Here Come the Questions
Why is it that even though I am not positive if I like a guy, because of course it's only been a week, that when he doesn't call for 3 days it becomes a dramatic incident, and all of a sudden it's Fiona Apple time? There is no reason for him to not call; everything was fine last we spoke. With the time frame we are discussing here in the first place it shouldn't even phase me that a man decides to not call for 3 days, or possibly (gulp) never again. I never slept with him, I never drunkenly made a fool of myself over him or around . . . keep reading
Playing the Part
A revelation came to me at the most unsuspecting time. During one of the most mundane things I do in my structured and routine lifestyle, while reading my redeye on my daily commute home from the city. A seemingly average man sat next to me on the train and asked if this was the train to Lemont. I assured him it was and went back to my business. He was of acceptable appearance in my opinion, and honestly resembled most of my ex's, trouble I know, so I continued with my reading and kept my head phones on. Just as I suspected before . . . keep reading
Why Doesn't She Leave Him?
It's very easy to look, from the outside, at another woman's unhappy relationship and ask: 'Why on earth does she stay with him?' It's especially easy if the man in question exhibits the subtle charm of Attila the Hun... or the social graces of Fat Bast*rd in Austin Powers. Some abusive men parade their hostility and prejudices as proudly as if they were merits. Others are utterly charming and engaging in the social context. And their partners' suffering is compounded endlessly by the incomprehension they meet with, when they finally . . . keep reading
Charisma, Love and Health
This is an amazing story. It's about my friend Robert. Robert is one of those really charismatic people. You know the kind I mean. Wherever he goes, people are just drawn to him, it's truly a sight to behold. At dinner the other night, Robert's charm drew the waiters in and they conversed with him a great deal. However, when I spoke up, the waiters didn't seem to pay much attention. They may have even been a little dismissive. It was as if the only person at the table was Robert. The difference was Robert's charisma. He has that special . . . keep reading
Ive Gotta Hand It to You
What would I do without my wife? Not much. What would I do without my best friend? Even less. The story begins a long time ago. I kick myself for not remembering the exact day, but it doesn't really matter. It was back when I was about 22 or 23, or so. I started working at this gas station near my home in New Jersey. This happened to be the place where I would meet a few key people that would help to change my life. At the time they didn't have a clue. I was working at the gas station during the day. One job led to another, a . . . keep reading
A Gift From the Heart of a Friend
She stares at me and then closes her eyes. A tinge of early dawn plays on her cheek as it peeks through the glass curtains by my desk. I grow warmer, waiting in silence for her first uncertain word and the gentle touch of her hand. She fidgets and rocks in her chair. She cannot hold her thoughts inside much longer. We've been meeting like this for months. Some days she rambles, pouring out her soul. She talks of yesterday's sorrows and tomorrow's distant shores. She tells me her needs, desires, dreams, and passions. Sometimes she . . . keep reading
8 Reasons Why Your Man Isn't More Romantic On Valentine's Day
What is supposed to be the most romantic day of the year is too often a source of disappointment and frustration instead of joy for thousands of couples. Valentine's Day usually brings expectations for women who are in a relationship. They may anticipate gifts of chocolates, romantic cards, and secret reservations in trendy restaurants. Instead many men have psychological blocks that keep them from being more romantic. Consequently these men may do little or nothing special for their partners for Valentine's Day. The reasons male . . . keep reading
Hey There, What's Your Money Personality?
Guys who come up to women in bars and ask: "hey baby, what's your sign?" Since statistics reveal that couples fight over money more than any other issue, maybe a better question to start off a potential relationship is to first find out the other person's money personality. I just learned about money personality typing in a recent workshop and it is quite fascinating. Basically there are four personality types: The Savers/Hoarders Savers embrace the concept of putting something away for a rainy day. Savers describe . . . keep reading
The Five Minute Relationship Miracle
"They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel." Carl W. Buechner The Five-Minute Miracle works in any type of relationship - relatives, spouse, children, colleagues, friends - you name it. The premise is simple. Here's how it works: 1. Choose a relationship that you know needs some work. 2. For five minutes give that person your total attention. What does that mean... a. Listen only to them: ignore your own thoughts, don't worry about your response, just listen b. See them as they are: don't . . . keep reading
Keep the Fires Burning
The toys are put away, homework's done and the kids are in bed. The lunches are made and the dishwasher is on. You wash your face, brush your teeth, choose clothes for tomorrow and then collapse into bed beside your spouse. You lean over give your mate a perfunctory kiss and casually comment that your sex life "sure isn't what it used to be before kids"-and instantly fall asleep. It's a familiar scenario that finds it's way into jokes and television sit-coms. Nurturing love, intimacy and romance can often drop to the bottom of the . . . keep reading
Intent
Over the past few months, things in my life have been better than ever. New home, new friends, and wonderful career. Yet I found myself uncharacteristically asking, "Self, why am I feeling so frustrated? Why am I getting upset at the smallest of situations?" I did a little digging (soul searching, if you will) and realized that as wonderful as things were going at the moment, like most of us, I had some unfinished business out there. There were a handful of people and negative relationships that were still on my mind . . . keep reading
The Best Break Up Advice
Extreme Breakup Recovery Maximum Healing? Minimum Time If you are going through the emotional rollercoaster of a breakup, feeling pain, anger and depression, know this: You don't need to suffer one more day over your ex! It doesn't matter how long you have suffered, it is time to give up the pain and open up to a life free of pain, and use this breakup to your benefit. You may feel that you can't stop clinging on to the past, but by clinging on to the past, you are stopping life. Life is change; people come and go in your life . . . keep reading
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Playful, Innocent Phone Sex
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The Secret of Relationship Success
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Being Romantic for a Change
Honestly, I do not know anyone who is romantic nowadays other than me and a few people I have met online. Is romance fading from our lives? And why is it always looked at as a silly trivial thing? Are not dreamy romantic people considered losers by some? For me, romance is simply life. I have a romantic . . . keep reading
Has The Magic Gone From Your Relationship?
Kathleen and Dan have been together for several years now. At first it was magic and Dan was so romantic and attentive. Now he is constantly criticizing her or even worse ignoring her completely. When he's not out with his friends he lays around the house watching T.V. expecting her to wait on him . . . keep reading
Friendship - A Relation of Choice!
Introduction Have you ever heard or have you ever seen, father-son; mother-daughter; husband-wife; boss-subordinates; brother-sister as a friend? Might be yes, but how often and how genuine. At the end of a day, the message is, "mein tumhara baap hoon, jo mein kahta hoon, who karo" (I am . . . keep reading
Should I Stay Or Should I Go?
It's one of the ways you can spot a woman in an abusive relationship. They ask themselves the question, time and time again, obsessively. Actually, it's not the question that obsesses them so much as the answer. The hope is that if they ask themselves the question often enough, the answer . . . keep reading
Am I Doing the Right Thing?
Dear Candace, My fiancé and I just broke up, and I need to know if this was the right thing to do or not. I love him more than anything else in the whole world. We were planning on being married in April. I just felt like he put himself above me in his priorities. He would make plans with me and then . . . keep reading
Christmas Gifts Can Be a Cheating Husbands Undoing
Have you been plagued by the nagging feeling that your husband might be having an affair? Well. Christmas is probably the ideal time to confirm your suspicions and perhaps find additional proof of your husband's infidelity, as well. It's only natural for lovers to want to buy gifts for each other . . . keep reading
Being Mindful of Your Mates Space
SOMETIMES I'LL ask a couple I'm seeing in therapy to do the following exercise. 1. The husband and wife stand about six feet apart. 2. The husband walks slowly toward his wife until he reaches a point where he no longer feels comfortable. Some men stop about three feet from their wives. Others stop . . . keep reading
Relationship Advice: Wash that (Bad) Man Out of Your Hair
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In my work with couples, certain themes have emerged that can help us understand how a couple that was once close can drift so far apart. How couples drift apart 1) Life got in the way. Somehow, in the midst of the hustle and bustle of everyday life, couples seem to forget about each other. The initial . . . keep reading
Passion Drought: Turning the Fizzle Back Into Sizzle In Your Relationship; Part 1
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All long-term relationships go through a variety of phases. There is the initial dating and courtship and infatuation period. If the relationship continues, it settles into a more stable time of building a history as a couple. If children enter the picture, that is a new phase. Later, there . . . keep reading
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Relationship Advice: Words Can Hurt or Heal
"Stick and stones, may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." Remember that little rhyme from childhood? It's wrong. And more than that, it's a lie. Words are very powerful. Words can hurt or heal, build up or tear down, comfort or curse. According to Mike Gordon, pastor at CenterPoint Church . . . keep reading
Preteen Relationships
Even preteens have relationships that are important to them. In this critical time, though, the most important preteen relationship is always with parents. It is up to the parents to provide for them the foundations of a good relationship. For those that dare not do provide this relationship in a positive . . . keep reading
Soul Mates - Finding True Love and Commitment
Finding your true Soul Mate is something that many people hope to do. We all long for that one special person in our lives to make everything wonderful. We want to live the fairy-tale life and find our very own Prince or Princess Charming. We know that somehow that would make our lives complete . . . keep reading
What Is A Boundary In A Relationship?
You might ask yourself, I have heard this word boundary, but I do not know what it means. Boundaries are often mentioned in terms of relationships. Boundaries are a simple concept, but they can vary from person to person. Boundaries essentially keep the good stuff on the inside and the bad stuff on . . . keep reading
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