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All About Relationships
How Can Empathy Shape Your Values?
One of the most underrated concepts that most people overlook is approaching life from an empathetic standpoint. Despite our best intentions, it is not always that we live by this ethical code that is deeply embedded in all of us. Much of my writings are geared to logical approaches to a an overwhelming world and this is definitely no exception. I don't want to underestimate the importance of this concept because I feel it is so extremely powerful. It is quite intriguing to me that this world is made up of so many beautiful, yet so . . . keep reading
Has The Magic Gone From Your Relationship?
Kathleen and Dan have been together for several years now. At first it was magic and Dan was so romantic and attentive. Now he is constantly criticizing her or even worse ignoring her completely. When he's not out with his friends he lays around the house watching T.V. expecting her to wait on him. Just when she thinks that she can't stand it any more, he becomes the old loving, romantic Dan once more; however, this never lasts longer than a few days and then he resumes his old behaviors. Kathleen knows that it's time to for a . . . keep reading
Reading Each Others Mind
I cannot tell you how many times I have heard couples express the fact that they felt their partner should be able to read their mind. Have you ever felt this way? Such thinking can lead to disappointment, sadness, and yes, at times, even anger. In order to overcome this, we must be much more specific about what our desires and needs are. Part of the problem, I believe, is that we are often afraid that if we really ask for what we desire, we will be rejected. Therefore, it is easier not to ask in the first place and to assume . . . keep reading
Ridding Yourself Of Being A Manipulator To Better Your Relationships
One of the oldest character flaws in humans is their ability to manipulate each other. It's insidious nature tilts our everyday playing field toward the manipulator. The manipulating person has a basic personality flaw that has a direct link to control, but primarily the ever-abundant insecurity issue. So, how is it that we deal with these types of people to level the perverbial playing field? Well, for a moment, lets just consider the problematic issues that these types of people have so as to better understand what approach to take . . . keep reading
How do We Change our Self Esteem Perception?
Many of us have heard about the power of positive thinking to effect a change. The idea is not new, it stems from modern psychology as well as from ancient spiritual teachings. In each case, an individual is encouraged to avoid negative thoughts and to replace them with positive and hopeful messages. Think of your brain as a massive computer bank with a huge memory. A computer is programmed to respond in a certain manner, when given input. We can even alter the data that comes out if we program it to do that. The same can . . . keep reading
Dinner Scooped Off the Floor - Why Men Wont Commit
"We strengthen a muscle by using it, and that is true of the heart and mind, too." ---Danielle Crittenden "I just got an email from him and I need your help," was the first thing she said when I answered the phone. The guy she was talking about had disappeared for six months following a series of disappointing dates and had recently re-emerged. He was attempting to get back into her life after having admitted to tossing her phone number twice. "Tell me why you're in doubt about what to do," I responded. "Well, I was going to email . . . keep reading
You Have to Probe Deeper: Why First Impressions Are Dangerous
Do you remember when, as a small child at a birthday party, you sat wide-eyed and gaping as a magician pulled out a rabbit with a flourish from a seemingly empty top hat? At the time, the wonder of it all left you speechless and full of awe, but like all healthy children, you grew a little wiser as you grew a little older. The next time you were present at such a performance, the "magician" might have turned into a "conjurer." You might have enjoyed the show every bit as much, but you now knew that sleight of hand, not black magic . . . keep reading
Dangerous Relationship?
I will in this article cover some of my own experiences living with a person with a dysfunctional personal disorder of type borderline. I call these person BP (BorderlinePersonality) to make things easier. Why is it so hard to live with these people? What are the warning signals? What is there to do? At first this persons are very charming so it's very hard to detect these disturbances. I also want to state that each and every one of us has some kind of borderline in our selves. Most of us don't have it to such a degree though . . . keep reading
How a Three Letter Word Kills Good Relationships
"You know, I really do love fish!" My friend Steve came up with this profound comment as we were about to tuck into the gastronomic offerings before us in a crowded downtown restaurant. I raised my eyebrows. Well, on the face of it, Steve sure wasn't kidding. He lost no time in matching words with action as he attacked the luscious fried sole with cream sauce with unbelievable gusto. But I know my friend is a philosopher at heart, and I wasn't going to let him get away with it so easily. "Steve," I said. "You're doing a great . . . keep reading
Real Solutions For Combatting Extreme Shyness
Most people experience some degree of shyness from time to time in certain situations. In fact, only about 7% of the population claims that they never feel shy. For the rest of us, shyness can range from being an occasional, minor inconvenience, to being a major problem. Some people however, are afflicted with a degree of shyness so severe that it is almost disabling. This type of acute shyness is not only very painful to experience, but it can have devastating effects on a person's social life, happiness, and career. Severe . . . keep reading
If He Insists That You Work...
Once, when asked about her life, former First Lady Barbara Bush said, "I married well." Is it wrong to want to marry well? Ladies, it's all about survival - and it's all about what you will be able to do for your children. Marry well, and you will never have to fear the basic survival issues, such as illness and unemployment - threats that single women (especially single mothers) have to face every day. Mother always said, "You can just as easily love a rich man as a poor man." Mother was right. But what makes a man rich? Richness . . . keep reading
Guys Guide To Flowers
We are here to help! With these helpful hints on flowers, you will feel more confident about choosing beautiful blooms for that special someone in your life! Something Simple & Sweet- Consider a mixed bouquet of daisies, lilies and wild flowers. This mixed bouquet is appropriate no matter what the occasion. Perfect for the "New" relationships. It simply lets that special someone know that you are thinking of them. A local florist can deliver the flowers to your recipient with a message card. Someone need a pick me up- A basket . . . keep reading
Valentines Day Gifts Can Expose a Cheating Husband
If you have the uneasy feeling that your husband is having an extramarital affair, Valentine's Day is the ideal time to confirm what you suspect. The Valentine's Day gift he gives his mistress or the gift he receives from her in return, can provide you with proof of his infidelity. If your husband has a lover he's certain to buy her a Valentine's Day gift; whether he receives one in return or not. This could prove to be his undoing. An observant wife can find valuable clues about her husband's infidelity, if she knows what . . . keep reading
Thinking Lingerie on Super Sunday?
February will bring with it one of the most important days all the whole year. Which day it is generally depends on gender. Super Sunday or Super Boyfriend? While the men will be waiting in anticipation for the big game, the ladies will be preparing for another day of supposed disappointment. They will let you and the boys have your day in the sun, only for you to forget about the day that they will crown their Most Valuable Player. This year could be different though. If you have been riding the pine during the last few seasons . . . keep reading
Daisies A Story About Life
"I love daisies too," she told him several nights after they first met. She wasn't sure why she blurted it out but it seemed the normal thing to say considering the conversation they were having. They were talking about "favorite things" the way you do when you are trying to get to know someone. Small talk that keeps the conversation flowing: "My favorite color is green, 18 is my lucky number, and my favorite food is pizza." When she jokingly asked if he had a favorite flower he replied, "Nope, but my mom loves daisies." She brightened . . . keep reading
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Welcome to Dumpsville. Population - you! You've been dumped for a new and improved model. However, you have decided, "to remain friends." What good can come from being friends with someone who doesn't want you? We have all heard the lies. "It's not you, it's me" or "My life is too complicated right . . . keep reading
Top 10 Ideas to Revive a Fizzling Relationship
Love is exciting, and when a relationship is new, almost everything you do together is fresh and alive, and keeps you enthralled. Then time begins to pass, and while the love is still there, the relationship may have lost some of it's sparkle, whether it's because you now have a family or not. Here are some . . . keep reading
What Every Woman Should Know About Men and Romance
Men and women think differently about romance. Men are goal-oriented. They measure their success by their achievement. Unconsciously, they tend to divide their relationship into two phases - courtship and 'Keepership'. The aim of courtship is to woo the woman and win her affection. During the courtship . . . keep reading
Relationship Red Flags Do Appear Early On
So often in the bloom of a new romance we set aside a few "minor" character flaws to let the relationship continue, where sometimes we really should just end it early, and cut our losses. I'll make a list of a few of the ones that often come up. Unfortunately, individuals that have these . . . keep reading
One of The Main Reasons Why Relationships Fall Apart
I had the priviledge to try out a BMW M5 at a BMW dealership. It is one of the most refined race cars that is ever built. The interior is all leather, the V8 engine produces 398 horse power, navigation system, and wow, you gotta try it yourself. Enough said about the BMW M5, no matter . . . keep reading
Rekindling An Old Flame
Dr. Nancy Kalish, a psychology professor at California State University, Sacramento, is the only researcher of couples who reunited with former sweethearts. Her book, Lost & Found Lovers: Facts and Fantasies of Rekindled Romances, 1997, is based on her first four years of research (now 11 years . . . keep reading
Got a Girlfriend? Here's How Not to Screw It Up
Having a girlfriend can be a dangerous thing. We become too dependent on our woman for our happiness, and then if we get dumped, we find that we've all of a sudden lost our confidence. This results in having trouble meeting new women, being without sex for many months, until we finally get a . . . keep reading
Penpal and Christian Penpal
Having a penpal can be fun; bringing diversity into your friendship circles, and a having a Christian penpal can bring support and encouragement into your life. A penpal is someone that you correspond with, getting to know each other through personal writing. Many relationships have been discovered . . . keep reading
Relationship Conflict: The 3 Cs of Resolving Conflict
"And they lived happily ever after... ...... ." Yeah right. Perhaps I'm a little bit jaded, since I work all day with couples in conflict. On the other hand, conflict comes to even the healthiest of marriages. It's just that we seem so unprepared for how to handle conflict. We know in our . . . keep reading
Be Glad That There's Quarrel in Your Relationship
Is your love relationship smooth? Have the both of you actually quarreled before? If your answer is yes, then you should be happy and be glad that it happened. But if your answer is however a no, then you should be aware of the danger that you are facing. Hmm... did I make things sound a bit too scary . . . keep reading
3 Stone Diamond Rings - Three Times As Nice!
It is said that the stones in 3 stone diamond rings represent the past, the present and the future. Just as a couple unite these things when they join together in marriage, so three stone diamond rings represent perfectly all that has made each partner what they are today, the present moment . . . keep reading
It's Your Fault I Had An Affair!
When you read it like that, out of context, you'd be hard pressed to believe that anyone would have the nerve to come up with it as a serious justification for infidelity. Yet film star Jude Law has, allegedly, used this astonishing piece of sleight of mouth to justify a recent fling with his children's . . . keep reading
Great Relatinship Advice: The Ability to Create a Vision for Your Relationship
Many of us stumble into marriage and then continue to make it up as we go along. But relationships need much more conscious planning in order to be successful. In a hectic and throwaway culture, couples need a vision for their relationship. What is a relationship vision? Just what is a . . . keep reading
Feel Like a (Romantic) Kid Again
If the start of the school year makes you a little nostalgic about your own school days, why not take a little trip: back to your own childhood! Make a date with that special someone and act like children again. You'll soon see that this child-like fun can be just as romantic as a grown . . . keep reading
Rhubarb Romance: A Little Honey Works Wonders
Spring is in the air. It is a time of new life. There are green grass, kittens, puppies, and rhubarb . The darned stuff is the first thing to show up in the garden. For those of you who don't know about rhubarb, it grows from a huge root ball under the soil. A mass of stalks shoot . . . keep reading
The Unfairly Judged Professor
An All Too Familiar Tale She takes her teaching responsibilities seriously; she is committed to making a difference in her students' lives. She prepares her syllabus meticulously, with class-by-class activities and assignments, the most relevant and up to date readings, illustrative cases . . . keep reading
When Your Relationships Turn Abusive - What You Can Do
Sometimes the people who are the closest to us, our friends and our mates, the ones who should be liking us the best, are the ones who hurt us the most. No matter how lonely you are, you don't have to put up with rude or abusive behavior from other people. You can set strict limits on the behavior . . . keep reading
Ending a Relationship Gracefully
Ending a relationship is never easy. When you feel you must end a relationship most people find it challenging as they have feelings towards their partner and do not wish to hurt them. More often than not, breaking up is as hard on the person ending the relationship as it is on the person being broken . . . keep reading
Are You My Soul Mate?
I'm always dumbfounded when someone walks up to me and declares that they either have not found their soul mate or says, "There are no soul mates out there for me." Obviously, they don't know how to look for the signs or how to read them once they do find them. There are millions, maybe . . . keep reading
Lifelong Partners, Lifelong Growth
Many people, maybe even you, think there is only one life partner for each of us in our lives. I've got good news... we all have many, many life partners. A life partner doesn't have to be a romantic partner. A life partner is anyone with whom you share long term growth, internally and externally. Relationships . . . keep reading
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