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All About Relationships
Maybe Not Bones, But Hearts... And Worse: The Destructive Power of Simple Speech
Out of the blue, slap bang in the middle of a working day, an unexplained sensation inside your mouth breaks your concentration. You have deadlines to meet, and you react merely by immersing yourself with new determination in the task in hand. At least until the next day, when the mild discomfort has progressed to a stabbing pain. Any wishful thinking that the fate of the whole world depends on your finishing your work is now irrelevant. When you reach the dentist, he shakes his head sympathetically and jabs a needle right into your . . . keep reading
Recharging Your Relationship
Now you may ask why we would write an article about developing better relationships. The reason is because I believe that those who are in a relationship will be significantly and directly affected in all areas of their life by how that relationship is going, and how healthy that relationship is. Research has proven that those who are happy at home are more productive and less stressful at work. Developing a better relationship with your mate can help you develop a better life and a better business! Here are some thoughts to chew . . . keep reading
Love is not Something you Say, It's Something you Do
Many have problems with communication and using that "love" word. We all do need to hear those special words once in a while, but there are some great ways to say I love you non verbally. Check it out! I remember, as a young child, waking up on Christmas morning and finding toys assembled and stockings filled with delights. I remember the glow on my father's face and later came to understand just what that smile was all about. I remember coming home from school and finding freshly baked cookies for snack. I remember the joyous . . . keep reading
20 Tips to Keep Love Alive
Have you ever been at a loss to think of something special that you can do for that special someone in your life? Maybe you want to do a little extra for an important event, like his or her birthday, Valentine's Day, Christmas, or anniversary. Here are some excellent tips and ideas of some special actions that you can take to help keep love alive in your life. 1. Give your loved one a top ten list: Top Ten Reasons Why I Love You. (It's okay to include bonus reasons.) 2. Change the screen saver on the computer to something like . . . keep reading
Put Some Z.I.P. Into Your Relationships
Relationships are really what makes the world go 'round, aren't they? I mean, good, positive, healthy and meaningful relationships provide us with the richest experiences we have here on this old earth of ours. Your loving spouse who shares everything with you; that best friend who connects with you like few others do; the people at work who appreciate you and help you to become the best that you can be; This is what brings joy to life! But... relationships can also be the bane of our existence! What really brings more pain in this . . . keep reading
Rekindling An Old Flame
Dr. Nancy Kalish, a psychology professor at California State University, Sacramento, is the only researcher of couples who reunited with former sweethearts. Her book, Lost & Found Lovers: Facts and Fantasies of Rekindled Romances, 1997, is based on her first four years of research (now 11 years). Questionnaire responses were included from 1001 participants, ages 18 to 89, in all 50 states, and 35 countries. In addition, the book contains the lost love stories of the couples in their own words. These first participants found . . . keep reading
Q & A: Reuniting With a Lost Love
>1. Who are the prime candidates to rekindle a romance? The most successful rekindled romances were lost lovers who had been 17 or younger at the time of the initial romance -- first loves -- and had separated for situational reasons, like "parents disapproved," "moved away." "went off to college," etc. Age of the couples didn't matter -- if they were 18 or 95, the romance worked the second time. In fact, the older they were for the reunion, the better their chances of success. >2. Is Lost & Found Love successful the second . . . keep reading
How to Communicate Constructively
Destructive communication erodes self-esteem and harms relationships. Such communication patterns may be destructive, but, sadly, plenty of people fall into the trap of indulging in them. If you and your relationship partners follow these rules and steer clear of the traps of destructive communication, you will almost certainly feel better about each other and your relationship. 1. Use I-messages instead of You-messages. You-messages sound blaming and accusing. With an I-message, you can convey the same message without sounding . . . keep reading
Tune Up Your Relationship
Why do some relationships last forever and others fall apart? Here are some ways you can make your partner feel appreciated again and prevent your relationship from becoming a casualty. 1. Treat your partner as you would your boss, best friend, or best customer. 2. Think about what your partner wants and give it to him or her. 3. Think of ways you can do the unexpected and be thoughtful. Remember how you acted when you wanted to win your partner over. 4. Pay attention to your appearance. Dress nicely; get into shape. 5. Express . . . keep reading
How Often do you Think About What you are Going to Say?
How often do you think about what you are going to say prior to actually saying it? As a counselor, I have been trained to understand that working with Native Americans, there may be a quite a long pause before my client makes a response to something we are discussing. Native American children are taught through folklore, that they need to think carefully about the words they are going to use. The reason for this is that they believe that once statements are made, the words used will circle the globe for ever and ever, influencing . . . keep reading
Should I Leave This Relationship?
How do you know when it's time to say goodbye to a relationship? In any intimate relationship-especially in a marriage-it's not a good idea to let a doomed partnership drag on, simply to avoid the pain of a breakup. Signs of Trouble There are some warning signs that your relationship is in trouble. If you recognize any of these signals in your own partnership, you may have some work to do to get things back on track. 1. Your life priorities have changed significantly. Major life changes often force people to reconsider what's important . . . keep reading
Should I Stay Or Should I Go?
It's one of the ways you can spot a woman in an abusive relationship. They ask themselves the question, time and time again, obsessively. Actually, it's not the question that obsesses them so much as the answer. The hope is that if they ask themselves the question often enough, the answer will become the one they want. The desired answer is, of course,yes. Yes, they should stay because it will work out the way they'd like it to. Of course, there are good reasons for wanting the relationship to metamorphose into the Happily . . . keep reading
What's Special About Abused Women?
Before writing this article, I stopped and thought hard. By writing this, would I be putting potentially harmful information in the hands of abusive men? Would I be putting more women at risk? The answer kept coming back 'no'... although the question did bring to mind another characteristic of abused women that I'll come back to. The thing is, although abused women aren't usually aware of what's special about them, abusive men are. In fact,it would be hard to teach an abusive man anything he doesn't already know about choosing . . . keep reading
Valentine's Day is Fast Approaching, So Gather the Chocolates and Lingerie
That lover's holiday we know as Valentine's Day is coming up again. This year, be prepared for it. There is no sense in running around at the last minute to find the right gift. Here's a list of the traditional winners. 1. Flowers. This is the most expensive time to buy flowers, but she doesn't care. Roses are the preferred. 2. Chocolate. This works for both of you since it is rumored to have aphrodisiac properties. 3. Dinner. There might be nothing more romantic than sharing dinner together over a couple glasses of your . . . keep reading
Improve Your Relationship by Taking Care of Yourself First
It's important for you to take care of yourself before you try to fix your relationship. The old saying 'You can't give away what you don't have" applies here. Until you are peaceful and happy, you won't have a peaceful, happy relationship. If you skip these steps and jump immediately into the murky waters of your troubled relationshp, you are at high risk for going under. That's why it's so important to do all you can to stabilize yourself before you get in over your head. Before you confront core relationship issues, first . . . keep reading
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