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All About Relationships
Great Relationships: How to Solve Problems and Have Fun Too
I recently came across this quote: "There is a time in the life of every problem when it is big enough to notice and small enough to solve." When problems come in our relationships they can bring a great deal of stress into our lives. While problems do bring stress and are important to properly handle, our response to the problem is more important than the problem itself. How stressful a problem is can be determined to a large extent by our response to it. Many of us have learned avoidance as a way of handling problems. "If I just . . . keep reading
Great Relationships: Checkbook Battles and How to Solve Them
"You can't hold on to a dime. Do you own the mall yet?!" "It takes a crowbar to open your wallet. You can't take it with you, you know!!" If these words or ones like them sound all too familiar, you might be experiencing "checkbook battles" in your relationship. Checkbook battles are simply fights about money. In marriage, the Big Six areas of potential conflict are communication, sex, children, in-laws, religion and, you guessed it, money. For many couples, money can become a vicious battleground. In my work helping couples deal . . . keep reading
Communication Is The Key To A Lasting Relationship
"If you are trying to find ways to lead a more fulfilled life, at some point the spotlight of your attention will fall on your various relationships - with family, lovers, friends and colleagues," stated Take Control of Your Life, one of the series in Time-Life Books. Relationship can bring great pleasure and satisfaction where they work and unhappiness when they don't. While some bless the day they meet their partners, others curse the day. Understanding when your relationships are working well and taking steps to improve them . . . keep reading
Importance Of Background In A Relationship
Should coming from the same background be a major issue in a relationship? In the 90s, one of the major things we sometimes overlook in a relationship is our partner's background. To us, 'what's love got to do with background'? But the truth is that coming from the same background can enhance a relationship. Our background develops our values and ideas about love, life and relationship. A major conclusion reached is that having similar backgrounds in a relationship makes communication easier. Seeing things from the same perspective . . . keep reading
Buying A Diamond For Your Special Person?
The first thing you want to consider when buying a diamond is the price. If the price of the diamond sounds too good to be true, then be very careful? Diamond crystals were created deep within the core of our Earth more than 3 billion years ago and now brought closer to the surface of the earth by volcanic eruptions. Today, more than 250 tons of ore are needed to create just one carat round diamond. Even then, only 20% of all the rough diamonds are suitable even for gem cutting. The rest of the ore is then used for industrial . . . keep reading
Support for Non-ADD Spouses and Partners
Living with adult ADD can be quite a challenge. Not only is it a challenge for the actual person who has ADD but for those around him or her. Much needed understanding and support for adults with ADD has finally begun to surface. But what about the people who have chosen to love, honor and cherish adults with ADD? Where do they go for support and understanding? Who is going to help them cope with the challenges of adult ADD? Over the past couple of years both online and local support groups have begun to form for spouses and partners . . . keep reading
When Attracting Sexy Women, Remember... Time And Circumstance Change Everything
Many guys are just too intimidated and full of anxiety around sexy women to be successful at attracting women. I've even seen guys who turn women's heads walking into a room who have this issue. Let me help some of you who may have this "between the ears" handicap. I have a good friend of mine who teaches people how to become millionaires by investing in real estate. He's bought and sold over 1,500 houses in his real estate career. The guy is a real doer, not a talker (he's pretty good at attracting women, too)... and one of the . . . keep reading
How to Handle Problem People: Life Lessons from a Balky Bovine
Do you have people in your life that p? (make you angry)? You know the ones I'm talking about. It may be your child, partner, colleague, or boss. You think that you have established some boundaries, or the rules seem like common sense, and yet that person seems to find ways to get under your skin... just because they can. What's the deal? Is it something wrong with them, or is it about you? Maybe it's a little of both. I learned a lesson about this from the bovine species, a heifer we called Harriet Houdini. Each year, we . . . keep reading
Great Relationships: What to Do When You Have Drifted Apart
Picture, if you will, the following scene: A man and woman, somewhere in the great expanse of middle age, walk into a sandwich shop and sit down. They don't speak to each other. They do speak to the waiter when he comes to take their order. And this is the last time they speak, to each other or anyone else, the entire hour they are there. They each have a book, and they proceed to get lost in reading and eating. Now maybe they had just heard some bad news, or were the parents of 12 kids, hired a sitter and needed some peace and . . . keep reading
Great Relationships: 7 Secrets You Must Know to Make It
1. Commitment True commitment means much more than simply committing to staying married. Here's one of my favorite quotes about marriage: "When you marry, you don't marry one person, you marry three: The person you think he is; the person he really is; and the person he is going to become as a result of marrying you." Key strategy: Genuine commitment involves being committed to the growth and best interest of your partner. Or as one wise married person said to me, "What's good for my partner, is good for me." 2. Teamwork There . . . keep reading
Great Relationships: 3 Really Dumb Mistakes and 3 Smarter Moves to Make
1) Think short term. Many people enter marriage with the same mindset they have when buying a car. A car is designed with something called "planned obsolescence" in mind. You know that one day it will wear out and you will need to get another one. Entering marriage with this mindset just about guarantees failure. Smarter move: Go into marriage with a strong sense of commitment. Not just to "stick it out." Commit to having the best possible marriage and to the growth of the other person. 2)Assume you already know all you need to . . . keep reading
Great Relationships: 4 More Dumb MIstakes and 4 Smarter Moves to Make
1) Treat the family you have come from as more important than the family you are creating. Put your parents' opinion and happiness above those of your spouse. Spend more time with them than you do your own family. Invite them into marital disputes. Share private knowledge with them. Smarter move: Once you get married, the family that you form _ whether just the two of you or if you add kids _ becomes the most important family. Set up boundaries between your family and the one from which you came. A boundary is just a fancy way . . . keep reading
Lovers Quarrel
One minute you seem like lovesick turtledoves teasing, laughing and giggling with all your might. Then a few minutes later, you begin yelling and berating each other and a lover's quarrel is already in progress. A little bantering was all it took to stoke up a rising emotional tension. Every now and then, no matter how close and intimate a couple is, an argument occasionaly looms to create a tide in the relationship. Although sometimes it shakes a relationship down to it's very core, if handled well, it is healthy and can help . . . keep reading
Proper Flower Etiquette
Flowers are great gifts for practically any occasion, but there are some basic rules of flower etiquette. With the popularity of ordering flower delivery online, some buyers may not get the sound advice they'd get from a local florist. This guide presents the real meaning behind different flower types, and when they are best used. Red Roses: Red roses are always a great gift for a lover for practically any occasion or for no occasion at all. Indeed the power of "I love you" behind long stemmed red roses given to a significant . . . keep reading
Great Relationships: 4 Big Relationship Mistakes and How to Avoid Them
Relationship Mistake No. 1 - Partner Bashing Bashing the one you are supposed to love seems to have become a national pastime. You know the saying: "Can't live with `em, can't shoot `em." It's really amazing - one person in a group can start in, and then everyone else wants to top their story or complaint. The reality is that partner bashing reflects poorly on you, because after all, you chose this person. Relationship Tip: Rebel against the culture and praise your spouse in public. When someone tries to pull you into the game . . . keep reading
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Destroyers of Relationships
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Reading Each Others Mind
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Being Mindful of Your Mates Space
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It is possible for women to steer clear of an unhappy relationship. However, it will require taking an honest look at themselves and their relationship mistakes. After repeating the same relationship mistakes over and over gain, women begin to realize something is not working. The easy way out is . . . keep reading
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I had the priviledge to try out a BMW M5 at a BMW dealership. It is one of the most refined race cars that is ever built. The interior is all leather, the V8 engine produces 398 horse power, navigation system, and wow, you gotta try it yourself. Enough said about the BMW M5, no matter . . . keep reading
If You Cannot Make Friends, Make Foes
There are few desires (if any) stronger than the deep wish to be liked. The first time you realized that not everybody liked you, it was a shock. For most of us it was the first lesson we learned at school, and we needed time to accept it. As hard as it was to discover that loving you was not the main . . . keep reading
Loves All About Chemistry
People who have been swept off their feet know the feeling. Love makes us all feel funny. That sense of giddy disorientation, unsinkable euphoria and complete obsession with a new love can be so overpowering, that it's hard to imagine it's all about emotion. Now scientists are confirming there indeed . . . keep reading
Relationship Advice: How to Ignore Your Spouse or Partner
Marriage can be one of the quickest and most effective paths to taking someone special for granted. We don't mean to do it. It just sort of creeps up on us before we know it. All of a sudden we are treating someone who should be cherished in some pretty shabby ways. So let's look at a few ways we . . . keep reading
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