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All About Relationships
Love Advice: Let Fate Decide?
One of the most commonly asked questions, What is Love? What is it's exact definition? Well, there can never be a definite answer. Everyone got his or her own answer to it. To some it can be really simple while to others, it can get really complicated. But one definite thing that is for sure, everybody needs love. It is a basic human need; we are not born into this world to be alone. It has always been our natural instinct as human to reach out to people, to be with and accepted by others. Consciously or subconsciously, everyone . . . keep reading
Relationship Advice: 3 Kinds of Love
There are three kinds of love: love as a feeling, love as a decision/choice, and love as an action. The confusion of these three kinds of love is the cause of much needless pain and suffering. In an attempt to clear up this confusion, let's take a closer look at each of these three kinds of love. Love as a feeling. Oh, what a feeling. Let's face it, falling in love feels great. So does being in love. Throughout the centuries, poets, writers and singers have all extolled the glories of being in love. Only problem is that it doesn't . . . keep reading
Relationhip Advice: 10 Magic Words
Just about every night at our house, we read a book called "Say The Magic Words Please" to our young son. The story has lots of magic words, such as "please," "thank you" and "excuse me." Why am I telling you this? Well, the other night the book got me to wondering about what the "magic words" might be for couples. You know, all those words and phrases we tend to forget after a few years of marriage. As a result of my wondering, and a highly scientific poll (I asked my wife, my friends and my clients, in that order), here are a . . . keep reading
When Groucho Marx Got It Right
Groucho Marx was, I believe, a comic genius; a linguistic virtuoso, offbeat, wacky and insanely funny. He was also rude, abrasive and these days he'd qualify as verbally abusive. In film after film Margaret Dumont was on the receiving end of his scathing humour. She would fall for his iconoclastic charm and we the audience would fall about laughing at the sheer improbability of plot and seduction. Groucho remains a legend, not least for his inimitable one-liners, including the oft quoted: "I don't want to belong to any club . . . keep reading
Denial Is Not A River In Egypt
Original it ain't, but it still merits repetition: "Denial is not a river in Egypt". What it is, is a highly addictive behaviour. It starts insignificantly enough; an incident occurs which you would have rather hadn't happened; words are spoken that are cruel and contemptuous, words you would not have wished to hear; a behaviour appears that you weren't expecting, which is hurtful and dismissive? Suddenly you're to blame, though you probably aren't too sure what for. Then it's gone again. Things revert to 'normality', the 'blip' . . . keep reading
Defining Relationship Commitment for Todays Couples
WHAT IS COMMITMENT? The question of when a relationship is committed is a source of much confusion and debate. We live in a time when the marriage rate is going down, the co-habitation rate is going up, and the majority of first-born children are now born to unmarried parents. In this article I hope to shed some light on this question to facilitate your work with couples and individuals challenged by different perceptions of the status of their relationships. COMMITMENT VS. PROMISE I recently had a conversation with a woman who told . . . keep reading
Relationship Advice: How to Make a Genuine Apology
A genuine apology contains at least four elements: apology, acknowledgment, forgiveness and repentance. Let's take a closer look at each of these four elements. Apology I've come to dislike the words "I'm sorry" because they're so easily said that they've lost their meaning. The word "apologize" better captures the sense that you have done something wrong and are willing to make it right. There's a scene from "Happy Days" that captures well the difference. Fonzie is getting on his cousin Spike about stealing from a store. After . . . keep reading
Love Relationships: Focusing on What went Right
What's all the Hype about Love Relationships, Anyway? Love relationships are not what they're cracked up to be. They take real effort -- things like: admiration, commitment, dedication, devotion, forgiveness, encouragement, strength, inspiration, motivation, understanding, compassion, hope, desire, steadfastness, and so much more. What people don't realize (when they enter relationships) is love, though a beautiful thing, takes honest-to-goodness work -- on both ends. If one can imagine two halves of an element - one side cannot . . . keep reading
7 Steps To Creating A Healthy Relationship
Everything in life, in order to be a success, requires knowledge and education to some extent. We read, study and take courses on several subjects that we as human beings require in order to live the life we choose to live. If we wish to improve on a certain area of life such as career and education we simply enroll in classes or find alternative methods that will provide us with the information we are seeking. However, we were not taught to educate ourselves on relationships-the most essential factor to living in this world . . . keep reading
Diamond Alternatives - There Are Some Great Options
There is little doubt that diamonds are one of the most elegant of the precious stones, and that diamond jewelry is simply a joy to wear. Unfortunately, though many of us are unable to afford the diamond jewelry we would so dearly love, as the great beauty and value of the stone are translated into the price that you have to pay to own one. Enter diamond alternatives. Traditionally, it was seen as a great compromise, a disappointment, to be forced by financial considerations into choosing from one of the diamond alternatives available . . . keep reading
Lab Created Diamonds Are Now Exceedingly Good
When we think of precious gems, we usually spare little thought to the hard work that it takes to bring them to us in the beautiful jewelry that we love to wear, but diamond mining is, in fact, an expensive and dangerous procedure, reflected to the consumer in the price that must be paid to own one. Wouldn't it be wonderful if there were some way to recreate that same brilliance and beauty in a less dangerous, and hence less expensive way? Today's technological innovations mean that this does not have to be a pipe dream any longer . . . keep reading
Relationship Advice: Words Can Hurt or Heal
"Stick and stones, may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." Remember that little rhyme from childhood? It's wrong. And more than that, it's a lie. Words are very powerful. Words can hurt or heal, build up or tear down, comfort or curse. According to Mike Gordon, pastor at CenterPoint Church in Ocala, Fla., very few of us are prone to slice and dice our partner with our words. At the same time, most of us are guilty of making little cuts, or "nicking" those we love with our words. Have you nicked your partner lately . . . keep reading
And They Didn't Even Know I was Looking: Lessons on Love from My Parents
I came from good people. I didn't always know that. You know, it's funny. When I was 18 I sustained an eye injury. (Okay, maybe it wasn't THAT funny.) The coral I was sterilizing for my fish tank overheated and exploded. I was hit in the eye, scratching my cornea and the rebound of the hit resulted in what the medical folks among you will recognize as a contra-coup lesion of my retina. Think of it like whiplash of the eye... it gets smashed in and then snaps forward and the snapping forward part was strong enough to cause a bit . . . keep reading
Relationship Advice: 10 Tips for a Blissful Relationship
1.Often in marriage, especially in the early years, there is a choice: You can be right or you can be happy - not both. Choose wisely. As a friend of mine said after his first year of marriage: "I finally figured out that the sun will come up tomorrow if we do it her way." 2.Learn the gentle art of cooperation. Related to wanting to be right, competition in a marriage is corrosive _ it eats away at all the good stuff. If you are going to compete, compete together to have the very best marriage you can have. 3.Talk about the important . . . keep reading
He Said, She Said
The Relationship Triangle Most people get involved in a relationship for the right reasons and leave a relationship for the wrong reasons. In fact, most of us have been guilty of it at one time or another and of being a complete spaz demanding we get our way in the relationship. Remember the movie He Said, She Said? A constant power struggle ensues when you make the relationship all about you. So why do we do it? I believe the reason this happens is that we make unhealthy relationship choices. In our deepest inner desires, we . . . keep reading
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Tom Cruise & Katie Holmes -- Celebrity Romance
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Should I Stay Or Should I Go?
It's one of the ways you can spot a woman in an abusive relationship. They ask themselves the question, time and time again, obsessively. Actually, it's not the question that obsesses them so much as the answer. The hope is that if they ask themselves the question often enough, the answer . . . keep reading
Office Nomance
Are Office Romance's really that bad? The answer is?..it depends on the individual. The key to success in an office romance is accepting the reality of the situation. Some relationship experts say if you engage in this type of relationship, you should keep it on the hush hush and keep it professional . . . keep reading
Relationship Quiz - Copasetic, Caution, or Conundrum?
This quiz is based on key areas of communication and intimacy in relationships. The easiest way to take the quiz is to print it, so that you can circle your responses and add up the results. Use the scale below to gauge the health of your relationship. The questions are designed to assess the likelihood . . . keep reading
Should You Forgive Infidelity?
If you're asking yourself that question, then somewhere within you there must be a desire to forgive the other person. After all, if you knew 100% for sure without doubts that you definitely should NOT forgive, then you wouldn't be entertaining the question, right? You would have . . . keep reading
Don't Ignore the Signs: How Emotional Infidelity Can Ruin Your Relationship
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Put Some Z.I.P. Into Your Relationships
Relationships are really what makes the world go 'round, aren't they? I mean, good, positive, healthy and meaningful relationships provide us with the richest experiences we have here on this old earth of ours. Your loving spouse who shares everything with you; that best friend who connects with you like . . . keep reading
Relationship Tune Up - 7 Key Points to Avoid a Break Up or Break Down
"Every three months or 3,000 miles." That's how the sticker in the left upper corner of my windshield reads. It's a matter of common knowledge that we are supposed to maintain, service, and tune up our cars if we want them to run well and last. In my experience, it rarely occurs to us to . . . keep reading
Relationship Failing? Consider Your Ways
When We all need to consider our ways. So many times we operate in a state of being that is selfish and inconsiderate. We believe that we are unselfish and considerate, but are we really? Relationships are all about giving and sharing. If you cannot do that, then you need to work on yourself until . . . keep reading
Relationship Conflict: Lock Horns or Lock Arms
One of my favorite comic strips growing up was "The Lockhorns." Not so much because it particularly funny (although it was), but because it seemed like a great model for how not to do love relationships. It was not until recently when someone mentioned the phrase "lock horns or lock . . . keep reading
How to Get Over a Breakup
This is one of the most difficult parts of a love life to get over, it is how to get over a relationship break up. It is tough nursing a broken heart, and we all need a little help to get over this broken heart. The lesson here is that friends and family, basically company, is need always to get . . . keep reading
How realistic are we?
So often when we think of our ideal mate we give them qualities and attributes that one person may or may not be able to possess. These qualities can be how they look, how they treat us, to something like what kind of job that they have. Are these ideas realistic? Sometimes yes, and sometimes we are . . . keep reading
Learning to Trust Again
Eleven o'clock on a weeknight I found myself phoning a man whom I'd recently met. We had been talking regularly and I just wanted to hear the sound of his voice. No answer. After four rings his answering machine kicked in and I hung up. How strange. This man made a point of staying home during the . . . keep reading
A Diamond Anniversary Ring - The Perfect Way To Seal Your Love
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Yellow and Orange Flags in Relationships
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True Love - Part 1
True Love! We all dream of being in love with that significant other, at some point in our lives. Is it better to have loved once than not to have loved at all? If this is really the case, then how do we actually find true love? How can a man or a woman really get to the core of the . . . keep reading
Relationship Advice: Safety, Intimacy, and Fun
When people come in for marriage counseling, they bring their own expectations. Some people expect the therapist to say one spouse is wrong and the other right. Others expect to talk only about the problems in the marriage. Many come not knowing if they want to stay together or if they want to divorce . . . keep reading
Little Help Finding Love Online
Visit the dating sites. If finding love online is what you're after then the most important thing you can do is to get out there and network with fellow singles. Visit dating sites and picture personals sites otherwise finding love online simply isn't going to happen for you. A quick search . . . keep reading
Youve Been Dumped - Here's How to Get Over It
We've all been there. We've fallen in love with somebody who just didn't love us back. We've heard a variety of exit lines: I think it's time we started seeing other people, I love you, but Im not in love with you, or It's not you. It's me. It's hard to accept when the other person just . . . keep reading
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