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All About Relationships
The Sting
Direct Answers - Column for the week of June 28, 2004 Two days ago, purely by accident, I found out my husband was a member of an online sex and swinger service. I unintentionally opened his e-mail, thinking the computer was logged on to my name, not his. After a minute or two of deliberation, I used the password to log on to the site to see what he was doing. I almost threw up when I read his profile and found he was actively seeking women and couples for extramarital sex. Yesterday, I became a member of the site, set up a . . . keep reading
Unprofessional Conduct
Direct Answers - Column for the week of June 14, 2004 I am sitting here so unsure of what to do anymore. I've never asked anyone for help of this type, as many people come to me for answers. I am a social worker and my husband is a psychologist. We should have the answers, but we just don't. We have been married 10 years and have an 8-year-old daughter. The problem as I see it is my husband refuses to help out at home. He will not do anything associated with domestic work. He does not mow the lawn. What he does is work a . . . keep reading
Ulterior Motive
Direct Answers - Column for the week of June 7, 2004 Life was not this complicated a year ago -- said laughing while banging head on keyboard. I can make this short, but there is so much and I want to be fair. Stage one: friends. A friend decides our relationship needs to be advanced to a sexual/dating level. This was probably his objective when we first started hanging out, however, I could not picture us together. He was not my type, the age difference was huge (15 years), and I just couldn't see an "us." Stage two: friends . . . keep reading
Romantic Relationships: An Internal Process
If you grew up in the 80s like I did, you might remember the group Depeche Mode and their hit "Just Can't Get Enough." It is a song about being obsessed with the idea of being with someone, about needing another person. Romance easily becomes this addiction when we believe that we are not complete without someone else and that we simply cannot get enough of the blissful feeling we get when we are with him or her. When we believe we need the romance to be complete, we are in trouble for we are perfect and complete, connected to . . . keep reading
Prince Charles and Camilla - The Greatest Love Story Of Our Time
Prince Charles and Camilla Parker Bowles have loved each other for over thirty years. Their love story is the greatest love story of our time. It's a wonder that more people do not see it this way. Although the public loved the late Princess Diana dearly, this does not diminish the great love story that belongs to Prince Charles and his true love, Camilla Parker Bowles. Whenever they are together in public, you can see in their faces how deeply in love they are. After over thirty years, they want to be together all the time . . . keep reading
Relationship Habits
How many of you have ever been involved with a significant other who wanted you to do something you didn't want to do? I doubt that I'm the only one. By virtue of a significant other relationship, there will be times when our partners will want us to do things we don't necessarily want to do and conversely, there will be times when we will want our partners to do things they don't want to do. This is perfectly normal. The key, however, is what we do about it. Can you remember the behaviors your partners used to get you to do things . . . keep reading
Relationships Technology
The notion that there can be a technology of relationships basically contradicts what we all know aboout relationships. There are entire bookshelves about relationships. I don't mean this kind of education about relationships; it's not an arena where book-learning seems to have much relevance. This is a technology where you learn by waking up to different ideas and then observing them in your own life, trying them out and testing what works and what doesn't work. For example, take a few minutes and rate your relationships . . . keep reading
Is The Internet A Miracle Cure For Loneliness?
A few years ago a surprising survey discovered that people who spent a lot of time on the Internet were a lot lonelier than people who didn't spend much time on the Net. This was an unexpected find because many people view the Internet and e-mail as a great way to make and keep connections with other people. So what is the truth? Does spending time on the Internet actually make people more lonely? Or did this study simply show that people who are already lonely spend a lot of time on the Net? As happens so often, the technology . . . keep reading
Recognizing Unhealthy Relationships
One of the keys to obtaining a better life or living arrangement is to assess the quality of relationships that you surround yourself with. Do you surround yourself with loving relationships or unhealthy relationships? For someone that has a pattern or history with unhealthy relationships, the difference between the two may be difficult to decipher. Healthy relationships are relationships that add to our well being, not subtract. They bring out the best of us by being supportive of our goals and our inner selves. Unhealthy relationships . . . keep reading
Improve Relationships With Style
Have you ever felt that relationships are messy? These messes, are they inevitable? Is there anything to do to minimize the mess? Can cleaning a messy relationship be possible? How do you manage a relationship with some many different kind of people? GET TO THE POINT Maybe a forceful, loud and lively person gets your attention with their to the point style in a meeting or encounter. If you ask him or her about any of their goals or what they are up to, what sticks out most is their remarks wrapped in "what it will do for . . . keep reading
Are Single Black Women Too Independent?
Are single black women too independent? Too sure of themselves, too eager to express their opinion (and dis yours), too unwilling to listen and be submissive? Are today's black women even capable of 'following' a strong black man? For all my single brothers out there who have asked me these questions many times - this article is for you. First, let's deal with the first question - Are single black women too independent? My answer to this might surprise you - I think, in many ways, black women are too independent, but with good . . . keep reading
Hunter and Gatherer
Deep down, we haven't evolved as much as we would like to believe. Like the caveman, we still want to curl up next to someone during the dark of night so that we aren't so alone in the cold survival game. We want to feel safe, warm, and loved inside and out. It's hardwired into our brains. We travel in packs and we care for our young for a very long time. We need a mate to travel with, someone to love, someone to cheer when we win the battles against vicious animals, someone to guard the cave when we need to lick our wounds . . . keep reading
For Soul Mates: Will you grow or stagnate? Divine Source through Barbara Rose
Some soul mate couples refuse to grow. They refuse to resolve each of their core issues, which are the true sources of their personal pain. As a result, those soul mates are lost to each other for this life. This is a sad choice for both of them. And then there are the others, and I do hope you are one of them, who consciously choose to say: No matter how long it takes, I will heal within, and I know that as long as I put forth a grain of effort each day, eventually I will walk the sands of the most peaceful beach with my true . . . keep reading
10 Free Romantic Gifts
Being in love does not mean that you should turn overnight to be an extravagant spender. Love is beautiful when it is simple and true. If you are running out of cash and yet your heart is full of love for your other half, you don't have to sigh in despair. There are some free gifts which you can give to your lover without spending a dime. Unrealistic? Read on... 1. A Poem Writing a poem is one of the best ways to touch the other person's heart. After all, the words are straight from your heart and like they say 'nothing moves a . . . keep reading
Learning to Trust Again
Eleven o'clock on a weeknight I found myself phoning a man whom I'd recently met. We had been talking regularly and I just wanted to hear the sound of his voice. No answer. After four rings his answering machine kicked in and I hung up. How strange. This man made a point of staying home during the week in order to get up at 5:00 a.m. for work. "Call me any time before midnight," he had suggested. "I'm usually reading or listening to music." There could only be one explanation... another woman. I'd met him through . . . keep reading
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