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All About Relationships
What Does Relational Success Look Like? (Characteristics Of A Growing Relationship)
RELATIONAL SUCCESS... Loving in the good times -- and the not-so-good times. Learning how to "win as a team" instead of demanding to win as an individual. Learning to care and caring enough to listen. Seeking mutual growth, celebrating each other's victories and assisting each other during the stress times of life. Being big enough to ask for forgiveness when you have wronged the other person and strong enough to grant forgiveness when you have been wronged. Overlooking the small things for the purpose of gaining the bigger things . . . keep reading
Apologizing When We Hurt Our Friends or Partners
In every relationship there will be occasional misunderstandings and hurt feelings. Sometimes we are the one who hurt another person we care about; sometimes we are the one who has been hurt. Sometimes both people have become very angry at each other, or both feel hurt. Hurt feelings can be the result of a slip of the tongue, a misunderstanding, or a deed committed in bad judgment. Sometimes feelings are hurt deliberately in the heat of anger and regretted later. If we were the guilty party, we might regret what we said the . . . keep reading
Loves All About Chemistry
People who have been swept off their feet know the feeling. Love makes us all feel funny. That sense of giddy disorientation, unsinkable euphoria and complete obsession with a new love can be so overpowering, that it's hard to imagine it's all about emotion. Now scientists are confirming there indeed may be a lot more going on in a body that's in love than simple, happy thoughts. In fact, a spate of research has shown what kind of chemical and neurological activities occur at different stages of human and animal relationships . . . keep reading
Discerning The Loving Heart
How often have you had the experience of connecting with someone... a friend or a potential partner... who turns out to be an uncaring person? At first you think this is a really good person, and then down the line you discover that the person is self-centered, narcissistic, angry and uncaring. You wonder how you could be so wrong, and what can you do differently next time? I have discovered in my 35 years of counseling that people seem to decide very early in their lives whether or not they want to care about and have compassion for . . . keep reading
The Path of Relationship
Each month after completing and fine tuning Letters on Life I'm excited about sending it out. Within a few hours I start to wonder about the next letter and whether people will like it. Is it going to be good enough? Because of this concern I procrastinate and wait until the last minute to start writing the next letter. Underlying this version of the fear of rejection or the fear of failure is the question "am I good enough?" We all have that fear in some form or the other usually stemming from an incident in our youth . . . keep reading
Second Fiddle
I have been seeing a married man for the past nine months. He is unhappy but says he is not ready to leave his kids. They have a teenage daughter and a grown son, who is hers from a previous marriage. He is close to them and has a lovely home, which he worked hard for. We pulled away from each other because we both felt guilty. However, we are still very close as we work on an oil rig in the North Sea and cannot help being around each other for great lengths of time. We feel we are soul mates. Now he's found out his wife is . . . keep reading
ARC of Understanding
In relationship we all make mistakes and sometimes we are insensitive to the needs of others, especially those very close to us All this leads to disappointments and resentments. The answer to handling disappointments is understanding. Relationships don't come about because people are perfect. They come because of understanding. There is more gratification in being a caring person that in just being a nice person. A caring attitude builds goodwill which is best kind of insurance that a person can have and it doesn't cost a thing . . . keep reading
10 Fast Ways to Re-ignite the Flames of Love
Enhance Romance today. When Men and Women enter into a relationship, what they are really looking for is a best friend, some one they know will love us no matter what. Research shows that people who put each other down and are hostile to each other are more likely to have serious problems . We all have a comfort level and it's usually measured by how we live and what are interests are. Our comfort level gives us a sence of protection. We tend to lose ourselves and interet on what really matters ..(sharing our love!) We don't want . . . keep reading
How To Re-ignite the Fire in Your Relationship!
Couples that are together for a while sometimes suffer from passion burn out. Are you a victim of passion burnout? If you no longer have the desire to jump all over your partner whenever they walk through the door, and find more things to complain about than compliment, you may be headed down the path of trouble. Techniques for Re-igniting Passion So what can you do to re-ignite the passion in your relationship? Plenty! Probably the first thing that burns out of relationships over time is spontaneity. Variety is the spice of life . . . keep reading
My Life
My sister is 45 and having an affair with an old boyfriend from her youth. She says she loves him, he loves her, and they wish to pursue a life together. They are both married, though he is separated. My sister has a wonderful husband who is devoted to her even after discovering the affair. Our families are close, and we are in shock at this heartbreaking news. I believe my sister is going through a midlife crisis. Her husband is still willing to save the marriage, but he is tired of her obsession with this other man. My sister . . . keep reading
Relationships That Really Last: Is This the Secret?
In my e-book, How to Build Relationships That Stick, I told over a story I once heard in the name of a famous relationships counselor who talks on radio shows. It was claimed to be an authentic account of something that happened in real life, but even if it's apocryphal, I'm very much inclined to believe it could happen. A man decided to divorce his wife because, he said, he no longer loved her. Unfortunately, for some technical reason, he could not file for the divorce for six months. Being a reasonable fellow, he decided to . . . keep reading
How To (Wo)man Your Boundaries
The first time I ever heard "boundaries" mentioned, it was by my then husband. He informed me that I had to protect and hold his boundaries. (There was nothing that man wouldn't dump at my door!) It took me a long while to learn: a)what boundaries were b)that he was responsible for his own boundaries c)that I had boundaries too For women who've been through an abusive relationship, it can be hard to understand about boundaries; and harder still to establish them. Their lives are like great open stretches of country . . . keep reading
Do You Enable?
We all have behaviors, tendencies, patterns, and the keen ability to recognize any and all of them. However, when we become so accustomed and engrossed in them, how do we know we are enabling someone else's negative behaviors? It can be sometimes difficult to come to this realization, because it is has been such a seemingly normal way of life for a designated period of time. Characteristics that you accept and are willing to ignore in your interpersonal relationships that yield dark consequences, somehow put the offender you enable . . . keep reading
What Does It Really Mean When You Pass or Fail A Relationship Quiz?
Q. It seems that no matter what magazine I am reading there is always some new relationship quiz being published. Aren't these a bunch of baloney? A. Well, even baloney has a purpose if you're looking for a quick sandwich. The honest answer is that it depends upon the quiz. A relationship quiz that is written by a certified relationship professional, such as a licensed marriage counsellor or a psychologist, has a better chance of providing insight to a relationship than does one that is written by a magazine writer who was told . . . keep reading
Can You Become A Better Friend After Taking A Friendship Quiz?
Q. Does a friendship quiz really work? A. That depends upon what results you are seeking from a friendship quiz. If you are seeking to learn how to become a better friend, then the real results are found more in understanding the lessons that are hidden in the question rather than trying to pick the right answer. In fact, if the friendship quiz is well designed, the answer to each question will be very apparent without even having to guess. There are certain well-defined traits that make a person a good friend, and there are other . . . keep reading
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